Domestic Violence 101: Understand the Truth, Stop the Abuse: False Allegations

by: Teri Stoddard

False allegations of domestic violence ruin lives and reduce services for real victims. Each year 2-3 million restraining orders are issued in the United States[1]  of which as many as 80% are unnecessary or false.[2]

When Heather H. signed the Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence petition she wrote:

I was a victim of domestic violence. And now watch helplessly as my boyfriend’s estranged wife makes false accusation after false accusation.

There is a restraining order in place. He filed it against her. But in court she cried and made up a bunch of truly crazy stories and they flipped the order and made HIM the respondent.

She continuously calls the police to report he is harassing her at her home while we were on a family vacation in another state. We had proof of our whereabouts but they refused to even look at it.

…The 10 years they were together she isolated him from family and friends. She even went to jail for domestic violence against him. But they don’t look at the evidence.

They just listen to her lies and hand her kleenex to wipe away her alligator tears. And the policemen in the court scoul and glare at an innocent man. And she just eats it up. it’s a game.

And nobody will listen. No one will help…Somebody has to do something. Someone help. Please.

Michelle T of KY wrote:

This just happened to my son. I paid $900 for a lawyer because we had proof that it was all lies and she did not even show up for court and it was just dismissed because she was a no show and nothing was done to her.

She also has his child that will be 2 weeks old tomorrow and we have not even seen him. She is getting away with keeping this child from its father and filing false reports with the court system of Domestic Violence.

Have you or someone you know been falsely accused of domestic violence? Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (S.A.V.E.) has vital information for persons falsely accused of domestic violence.

[1]  SAVE: Stop Abusive and Violent Environments
[2] Foster BP. Analyzing the cost and effectiveness of governmental policies. Cost Management, Vol. 22, No. 3, 2008.

2 responses to “Domestic Violence 101: Understand the Truth, Stop the Abuse: False Allegations

  1. Episcopal priest Bob Malm, rector of Grace Episcopal Church in Alexandria VA, obtained a restraining order against a family member based on false claims of threats. Unfortunately, courts too often give great deference to clergy, without considering their credibility or veracity.

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