False Restraining Orders

The Fake Fight – What’s She Doing?

By DAVID PISARRA

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False Order of Protection filed against Betty Krachey by Edward “Ned” Bernard Lines in Sevier County, Tennessee August 29, 2014                 Click to see the vindictive order of protection that Ned Lines filed against Betty Krachey

The man comes home after a long day at work, usually it’s the last part of the week, when he’s really exhausted. The kids are doing their homework but there’s an air of discontent coming from her. He’s done something wrong, but has no idea what. She starts in on him, attacking him verbally. Getting him angrier and angrier. She screams at him not to yell at her, then it happens, those words, “don’t hit me.”

The next thing he knows. She’s broken some dishes, thrown food around the kitchen, run to the bathroom with the phone, locked the door, and is calling the police.

By the time the police arrive, she’s been crying in the bathroom, and prepping her story. She’ll tell the police that there was a fight, he broke the dishes and tossed the food in his angry state. Maybe she’ll have hurt herself to make her story more believable.

If the police investigate and find that there was some domestic violence, real or faked, the man is going to jail. Next stop – Temporary Restraining Order –ville.

She may also try to get you to send her angry texts or emails she can use against you.  Be very careful what you text & email because it WILL be used against you!

Why did she do it? Because the laws have become such that whoever gets a restraining order first, has an upper hand when it comes to the custody of the children, possession of the house, and psychologically in the divorce process.

In California Family Code 3044 makes it a presumption that if there was domestic violence in the family, the person who was abused, is the preferred party to have custody of the children. With that comes a preference for the children’s home location, and an increased amount of child support. That’s what this is all about. What are your states divorce laws?

When a marriage/relationship is over, it boils down to money and control. If she gets a restraining order against him, the court will look at him as an abuser. Once that happens he is perceived by the court as a bad role model. It will mean anger management classes, parenting classes, in some cases, supervised visitation with the kids that he has raised from birth. All because of a lie, and it happens every day in this country.  Vindictive Order of Protection that was filed against me by Edward “Ned” Lines in hopes he had of stealing everything I had from me.

The law states that for 5 years the domestic violence can be used against the man to show how unfit he is as a parent. It will be used by her long after the 5 years are up. She’ll throw it into every pleading and declaration she files in court, knowing that it will effect the court’s perception of her ex-spouse. She’ll use it to allow her to move out of state, to get more money from him by denying him custody of his children, and to make him feel like an abuser so that he will walk away from more of the assets of the marriage.

If a woman is becoming physically violent, there is no shame in the man walking away and calling the police. In fact, it is the smartest thing he can do, for himself, and for his children. If he has been attacked, in any fashion, he needs to be aware that the groundwork is being laid for him to go to jail. He needs to stop being a nice guy, and recognize that the relationship has changed, and that he and his soon to be ex are now adversaries in a battle of perceptions. If he doesn’t begin to take advantage of every tool the courts have to protect him, he can be sure that she will.

THREE TIPS TO FIGHT A RESTRAINING ORDER

1) Be on Offense, not Defense. When it starts, you have to be the one to call the police first.

2) Stop playing “Nice”. The Relationship is over, treat it as such, remember it is now about money and control.

3) Use your strongest asset – Logical thinking. Point out to the police or court, how she hurt herself, attack her credibility, and yes, use the kids if you have to as witnesses.

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One response to “False Restraining Orders

  1. Pingback: Order of Protection Filed Against Betty Krachey by Edward “Ned” Lines | Falsely Accused·

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