by: Lurleen Hilliard – Tarantino Productions LLC
This issue is one that has been brought to my attention on many occasions and it is something that not only infuriates me, due to the forced abuse on the child or children involved, but the fact that some Family Courts are enabling this abuse and any child abuse is illegal under all Laws in every state and yet some courts and judges are actually encouraging it and ignoring the devastation that it causes on the innocent victim the child or children who irrespective of how much their parents may hate each other, they still love them unconditionally as mom & dad, and should be allowed to have both in their lives.
A Protective Order is issued or should be issued solely to protect one person from another and possibly a child if there has been proven abuse on this child and on the person filing for the order. However far too many women in particular are Abusing the courts and these orders so that they can keep the child away from their father. This is not out of fear NO this is out of them manipulating the system and playing victim when in many cases, they are the abuser and they are who the child needs protecting from and not the loving dad. A proportion of attorneys are as guilty as these women are as they know full well that there is no need for a order of protection but the $$$$ is more important to them, rather than the welfare of a child which should be paramount in any court.
Far too many women are now abusing these orders so that they can ensure their ex and the father of their child can’t see, speak or have visitation with their child. As to do so would be to breach the order of protection that the mom filed and sadly many file it out of malice and not out of any fear at all. He is in a catch 22 situation. Either he risks contacting her so as to organize to spend time with his child or children and she files a breach of the order, OR he has to follow the order and then his rights under any Custody Order are been breached as he can’t get to spend the time with his child or children. This is called Parental Alienation and under the US Senate it is considered a form of Child Abuse. So why are so many Judges and Attorney’s getting away with Enabling the Abuse of an innocent child without them having a basis to do so.
No child asks to have a particular mom or dad, but they love them all the same. And yet these children are been used as pawns just so that one vindictive and controlling parent usually the abuser herself but who has filed for the Protection Order, simply so as to hurt her ex and because she knows that she can. This is wrong and these women should be held accountable for their actions I know of one incident were the father was not even notified of the court proceedings, nor his attorney and an Extended Protection Order was granted and he now hasn’t seen his child in months, solely because she is too young to contact directly and he doesn’t want to be charged with breaching the order. This is total Child Abuse and very wrong and criminal in my opinion.
Below are the basic details on what an Order of Protection Is and How it is obtained. As not all are aware of what it is issued for. I have picked one state to get this information on and it is TN, but in general the basics for the order are the same in each state.
What is a protection order?
A order of Protection is a paper which is signed by a judge and tells someone who is hurting you to stop or to face the possibility of serious legal consequences. It offers civil legal protection for victims of
Both men and women victims may be eligible for a protection order. However, you must meet certain relationship criteria in order to file,and be able to provide evidence to back this up.
Am I Eligible to File for a Protection Order?
Protection orders in Tennessee are designed to protect victims of domestic abuse, sexual assault, or stalking.If anyone has stalked you or sexually assaulted you, you can ask the court for a protection.If you someone has abused you (committed domestic abuse), you need to have a special relationship with him/her to get a protection order. You can only seek a protection order because of domestic abuse if the abuser is:
Your spouse or ex-spouse;
Someone you live with or used to live with;
Anyone you are dating or used to date;
Anyone you are having a sexual relationship with or used to have a sexual relationship with;
A same-sex partner you’ve lived with, dated, or had a sexual relationship with;
Anyone you are related to by blood or adoption; or
Anyone you are related to by marriage or used to be related to by marriage.
So I would ask all of those that work in Law Enforcement – Attorneys – Judges – Courts and any body else that deals with the applications for Protection & or Restraining Orders to really ensure that the person filing is the one in need of protection and also that they are not manipulating the system solely out of hatred for their ex partner or ex spouse. A child is the innocent in our world and let us all try to ensure that they grow up without abuse either by a parent or other adult and most certainly not by the court and legal system that is meant to protect them in life and not enable a life of forced abuse through Parental Alienation.